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\u201cBe honest with yourself, and you will find the motivation to do what you advise others to do.\u201d ~Vince Poscente<\/b><\/p>\n\u201cBe honest with yourself, and you will find the motivation to do what you advise others to do.\u201d ~Vince Poscente<\/b><\/p>\n
We all do it, tell ourselves lies to avoid facing the truth and taking action. And while these lies may seem small, they limit what we accomplish and our potential, at work and in our personal lives.<\/p>\n
21 common lies we tell ourselves…<\/p>\n
I Don\u2019t Have Time<\/b><\/p>\n
1. I can\u2019t do that <\/b>or I don\u2019t have time, I\u2019m too busy<\/b> or whatever excuse you want to make. It\u2019s what people say to avoid work, avoid going on a diet, avoid getting exercise or avoid making better use of their time. And it\u2019s all nonsense, since you can make time and the lie actually means\u2026 \u201cI haven\u2019t made it a priority.\u201d<\/p>\n
Confused? Look up “100% responsibility,” and find ways to go from \u201cI can\u2019t do that,\u201d to, \u201cI will do that.\u201d The breakthroughs come WHEN you acknowledge you\u2019re lying to yourself, that’s when you can move forward.<\/p>\n
2. I\u2019ll start that tomorrow.<\/b> Just remember tomorrow never comes. The difference between successful people and those who just work hard, is successful people have a habit of doing the things today others put off for tomorrow. It\u2019s as simple as that.<\/p>\n
If you aren\u2019t planning on doing something right then, then when? The key is to schedule it and then stick to your schedule.<\/p>\n
3. The timing isn\u2019t right. <\/b>In most cases that\u2019s just an excuse for not making it a priority. E.g. \u201cI\u2019m too busy to start my diet now.\u201d The reality is we\u2019re always busy. The time is always right to take action by at least making a plan and taking the first steps to reach your goals.<\/p>\n
4. I\u2019ll decide later.<\/b> Of course that\u2019s like your teenage son saying he\u2019ll clean his room later, which means, NEVER.<\/p>\n
Everyone and Everything Else Is to Blame<\/b><\/p>\n
5. It\u2019s not me, but clients, who make\u00a0this job so hard.<\/b> By blaming others, you\u2019re giving them all the power in your relationships, instead of taking responsibility for success yourself. The first step is to take ownership for having trained the people around you, including clients, to treat you the way they do. Then train them to treat you the way you want to be treated.<\/p>\n
6. What I eat and how much I sleep doesn\u2019t matter.<\/b> You\u2019re body is a system. Deprive it and you and your work will suffer. Get 7-8 hours of sleep, eat healthy 5-6 times a day and you\u2019ll get twice as much done.<\/p>\n
7. How I treat my co-workers or my family has nothing to do with how I treat clients. …m<\/b>aybe if you\u2019re like Sybil with multiple personalities. But how you treat your friends and family, the clarity of your communication and how you set expectations at home, is directly reflected in your work relationships and vice versa.<\/p>\n
Working Harder Is The Answer<\/b><\/p>\n
8. If I just work a little harder I\u2019ll get it all done.<\/b> Typically when people work harder they get less done because they don\u2019t take the time to get organized, take mental breaks to let their brains reset, refresh themselves, eat well, and get up and off their butts to get the blood circulating in their brains.<\/p>\n
One simple trick is to take a few minutes, close your eyes, let your unconscious brain rejoin your conscious brain and go back to work with double the brain power.<\/p>\n
9. That sounds like a lot of hard work.<\/b> \u00a0Well yes, being successful is – unless you win the lottery. But if you want to be successful all you need to do is work smarter than the average person. Sure, you may make a few mistakes along the way, but for each one you make, you\u2019ll be that much wiser than almost everyone else.<\/p>\n
I Can Do It On My Own<\/b><\/p>\n
10. I don\u2019t need to ask anyone for help.<\/b> Do you want to spend your life reinventing the wheel? \u00a0When I was 18, I assumed my parents were dumber than donuts. What I discovered as I aged was how little I knew, and asking others for help, advice, and guidance was the fastest way to reach my goals.<\/p>\n
11. I can\u2019t afford it.<\/b> \u00a0Which is exactly what most people tell themselves when they are buried by work. You tell yourself you can\u2019t afford the help you\u00a0need, but doing so\u00a0helps you work smarter and frees you from administrative tasks so you can focus on the real work that makes you money.<\/p>\n
12. The only way to make sure it\u2019s done right is to do it myself. <\/b>While you may be good at many things, telling yourself this is a falsehood that limits your ability to get work done\u00a0and\u00a0enjoy teamwork. It\u2019s true, when I first started out I thought no one could lick a stamp as well as I could but\u2026 I soon discovered that if I wanted to grow my business I needed to learn to let go of stuff others could do better than I.<\/p>\n
The \u201cI can do it all” attitude at work and in your personal life leads to becoming unorganized, overwhelmed by stress, and ultimately not delivering the best results.<\/p>\n
13. Delegation takes too much time. <\/b>It\u2019s true that effective delegation takes time, but once you\u2019ve trained your team to do the task, \u00a0it saves you time every time you need it done in the future. Delegation is an investment in your team. And it pays off over and over again.<\/p>\n
It rarely makes sense, especially if you own the business, to do clerical tasks or any task someone else specifically trained to do it could do in less time.<\/p>\n
14. Delegation absolves me of my responsibility.<\/b> In fact that\u2019s abdication, which pretty much guarantees the task you want done won\u2019t get done right. Delegation requires you taking 100% responsibility that your staff knows: what you want done; when you want it done; \u00a0that they have the training tools to succeed; and that you\u2019ll be there to make sure they get it right and acknowledge them when they do.<\/p>\n
Conflict Is Bad<\/b><\/p>\n
15. It\u2019s better to avoid conflict.<\/b> In reality it\u2019s much more productive to deal with it before it becomes a big problem; address small conflicts right away so they don\u2019t grow into big ones.<\/p>\n
16. This is the way it\u2019s always been, so it needs to stay that way.<\/b> In other words, \u00a0you don\u2019t want to rock the boat. But you should know, before it became the way it is now, it was something else. Someone, possibly in the spur of the moment without any thought, created the system you think you are stuck with. The truth is most of the barriers to success are perceptual, in your mind, not unchangeable or written in stone.<\/em> So go for it, suggest a change or an improvement, and who knows, you\u2019ll probably see it happen.<\/p>\n I\u2019m Not Good Enough<\/b><\/p>\n 17. I\u2019m not smart enough.<\/b> Maybe you don\u2019t know enough now; that could be true. But you can change that. You can increase your knowledge and your competence.<\/p>\n 18. I\u2019m stuck. Things won\u2019t get any bette<\/b>r. Life is full of challenges. You can avoid them and limit yourself or embrace them and thrive.<\/p>\n 19. Failing is a horrible thing.<\/b> The truth is, if you learn from your failures, it\u2019s the best way to improve at anything.<\/p>\n 20. People won\u2019t like me if I\u2019m honest with them.<\/b> Sure delusional people like to maintain their delusions and staying in the status quo, but most people prefer honesty and growth.<\/p>\n \u00a021.\u00a0<\/strong><\/strong>You can\u2019t have success and a great life.<\/b> Nonsense. You can manage your life however you want if you take control and balance your priorities.<\/p>\n That\u2019s it. Let me know if there are anymore.<\/p>\n \u201cBe honest with yourself, and you will find the motivation to do what you advise others to do.\u201d ~Vince Poscente We all do it, tell ourselves lies to avoid facing the truth and taking action. And while these lies may seem small, they limit what we accomplish and our potential, at work and in our […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[16],"tags":[30,387],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marketingforsuccess.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12427"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marketingforsuccess.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marketingforsuccess.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marketingforsuccess.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marketingforsuccess.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=12427"}],"version-history":[{"count":15,"href":"https:\/\/www.marketingforsuccess.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12427\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":12463,"href":"https:\/\/www.marketingforsuccess.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12427\/revisions\/12463"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marketingforsuccess.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=12427"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marketingforsuccess.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=12427"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marketingforsuccess.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=12427"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
\nThe key, of course, is to admit which lies you are telling \u00a0yourself and you know what to do\u2026 Stop. It\u2019s the best way to open more doors.<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"